What You Must Know When Starting Therapy

Starting therapy is a courageous step toward self-improvement and emotional well-being. However, it can be a daunting process if you’ve never experienced it before. To help you make the most of your therapeutic journey, I’ve put together a few tips and advice that I give to people curious about starting therapy.

Your Therapist Isn’t Your Friend

Your therapist is a professional, not a friend. They don’t need to like you personally, nor do you need to like them. The therapeutic relationship is built on trust, not friendship.

The therapeutic bond, while deeply meaningful, is fundamentally distinct from the bonds we share with friends or loved ones. In therapy, the relationship is intentionally one-sided, with the focus entirely on the patient’s well-being. This professional boundary allows therapists to provide objective guidance without personal bias. While friendship involves reciprocity, therapy is centered on the patient’s needs, creating a unique bond built on trust and confidentiality.

The therapeutic bond is crucial because it creates a safe space for patients to explore their innermost thoughts and feelings. In this confidential environment, individuals can share their deepest concerns without fear of judgment or consequences in their personal lives. This trust forms the foundation of therapy, enabling patients to address issues they might hesitate to discuss with friends or family.

Distinguishing the therapeutic relationship from personal friendships is essential. In therapy, the therapist’s role is to guide, not to be a friend. While friends offer emotional support, therapists provide structured interventions and evidence-based techniques to facilitate growth and healing. This boundary preserves the integrity of the therapeutic process, ensuring that patients receive the specialized care they need to navigate life’s challenges effectively.

Be Open and Transparent

Honesty is the foundation of effective therapy. Don’t hold back; share your feelings, experiences, and thoughts openly. Don’t worry about shocking or being boring; therapists are trained to handle difficult emotions and conversations.

In therapy, being open and transparent is fundamental to progress. Here’s why:

Honesty is Key

Honesty serves as the cornerstone of effective therapy. It’s essential to share your feelings, experiences, and thoughts openly. This honesty provides therapists with crucial insights into your challenges, enabling them to tailor their approach to your specific needs.

No Fear of Judgment

Don’t hold back due to fear of judgment. Therapists are professionals trained to create a safe, non-judgmental environment. They won’t be shocked by your disclosures; instead, they will guide you through difficult emotions and conversations with empathy and understanding.

Therapists are Prepared

Therapists are equipped to handle a wide range of emotions and topics. What may seem shocking or boring to you is valuable information that aids in your healing process. Their training ensures they can navigate these conversations effectively.

Set Clear Expectations when Starting Therapy

Define your therapy goals and expectations early on. Discuss them with your therapist to ensure you’re on the same page regarding your objectives and the therapy process. Keep in mind that as you progress through therapy, expectations and objectives will evolve.

Some things to consider:

Define Your Goals

Begin by defining your therapy goals. What do you aim to achieve? Whether it’s managing anxiety, overcoming past trauma, or improving relationships, articulating your objectives provides a clear direction for your therapy journey to begin.

Alignment with Your Therapist

Discuss these goals with your therapist from the outset. This ensures both you and your therapist are on the same page. It’s essential to establish a shared understanding of your objectives and the therapy process, fostering a collaborative and effective therapeutic relationship.

Your Therapist Doesn’t Have A Magic Wand

Clear expectations serve as benchmarks for measuring progress however understand that nothing will happen magically. You are the one implementing changes in your life one step at a time, while your therapist holds the map and guides you. You must be an active participant in your therapeutical process to feel its positive impact.

Do Your Homework

An important aspect most people don’t realize when they are starting therapy is that the work isn’t limited to their time with their therapist. Therapy often involves assignments or exercises to practice between sessions. Commit to doing the homework your therapist assigns; it’s part of the process to help you overcome the issues you’re addressing.

In therapy, actively engaging with assigned homework can significantly enhance your progress. Some of the reasons why it’s crucial:

Accelerate Your Progress

Homework complements your therapy sessions by providing opportunities to apply therapeutic concepts in real-life situations. This practice accelerates your progress, turning insights gained in therapy into tangible behavioral changes.

Reinforce Learning

Repetition is a powerful tool for learning. Homework allows you to reinforce and internalize the strategies and skills discussed in therapy. By repeatedly practicing these techniques, they become more ingrained in your daily life.

Personalized Growth

Therapists tailor homework assignments to your specific needs and goals. Completing these assignments not only fosters personal growth but also demonstrates your commitment to the therapeutic process.


Homework assignments create a sense of accountability. When you commit to completing them, you actively participate in your own healing journey, leading to better therapeutic outcomes.

You Should Choose Your Therapist

Selecting the right therapist is crucial. Take advantage of introductory sessions, like the 20-minute intro session you can book with me. This not only helps you gauge compatibility but also provides insights into the therapist’s approach.

Starting therapy is a valuable investment in your well-being. With a therapist you trust and feel comfortable with, you can embark on your therapeutic journey with confidence, knowing that you’re making the most of this transformative experience.

Compatibility Matters

Therapy is a deeply personal process. You should feel comfortable with your therapist and have a sense of compatibility. This rapport fosters trust, which is fundamental for effective therapy. It’s a partnership that should feel right for you.

Investing in Your Well-Being

When you choose a therapist you trust and who resonates with, you’re setting the stage for a transformative experience. You can embark on your therapeutic journey with confidence, knowing that you’re in capable hands. Worried about the cost? Yes, affordable online therapy is an option, especially with my 3D Human Therapy© process.

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Starting Therapy – Takeaway

So there you have it. These are important elements you should know before starting therapy to make the most of this process.

By understanding the boundaries you should have with your therapist, being fully open and committed, having clear expectations, and doing your homework, no matter who you decide to work with you’re making an investment in your well-being.

Therapy is a collaborative effort, and with the right guidance, you can navigate the path to personal growth and mental health with confidence.

Your journey to a healthier and happier you starts when you take action, and it’s a journey worth taking. Remember, you have the power to make the most of your therapy experience and bring about positive change in your life.

~ Enjoy Life & Carry On ~
Dr. Elefant-Yanni

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